Multi-racial relationships in South Africa still draw attention say couples

In 1949 the Prohibition of Mixed Marriages Act was passed in South Africa, becoming the first major piece of apartheid legislation.

This meant that, by law, white South Africans could not marry black South Africans or any of the other ethnic groups in the country.

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To explore multi-ethnic/ interracial relationships in South Africa, Africa Melani speaks to Rashika Perdara an Indian Hindu who is married to Andile Skosana who is Zulu.

Lungile Zakwe who's mother is Xhosa from the Eastern Cape and her father is Zulu from Durban and her life partner is William Norman whose partners parents are Afrikaans and English.

Larry Khumalo and his partner Angus MacArthur.

Perdara says from an awareness perspective she thinks that South Africans have to some extent be aware of these kinds of relationships.

If I speak of my lived experience, we still get the stares, we still have to navigate how we manage our families and navigate how everytime we tell our stories.

Rashika Perdara, in an interacial relationship

I have a friend who says everytime she is in a new environment, she has to come out again and that is how I feel.

Rashika Perdara, in an interacial relationship

Zakwe says she refers to William as a life partner, they met about six years ago and have been together officially for about four years.

It is always an interesting thing when you bring in people that you love such as family, close friends and you bring them into the relationship.

Lungile Zakwe, in an interacial relationship

I am very fortunate in that our parents, our families were quite understanding and accepting and it was new for them.

Lungile Zakwe, in an interacial relationship

As it is bringing two people from very different backgrounds so it is an interesting thing and it is an ongoing thing where people are still sort of settling into the idea of us.

Lungile Zakwe, in an interacial relationship

Khumalo says the question that they face as a couple is how do they handle political engagements between the two of them.

So the departure point when we met has always been that, we are both human, we like each other and we like spending time together. And the more we spend time with each other the similarities come out and also the differences.

Larry Khumalo, in an interacial relationship

Listen below to the full interview to hear what else the guests had to say...


This article first appeared on 702 : Multi-racial relationships in South Africa still draw attention say couples


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